Modalities
My work is informed by a number of evidence-based, state-dependent modalities. Whether you’re someone who feels comfortable in structure or you prefer to explore your emotional world in a more open-ended way, I take an active approach and tailor our time to your unique needs. Evidence-Based
I only lean on approaches backed by research and take my role as a facilitator to connection, healing, and change seriously. I invest deeply in my professional development and stay up-to-date on emerging modalities backed by evidence so I can best help you improve your well-being and your relationships.
Experiential
People learn best when they can practice new skills from an authentic emotional state, and have multiple opportunities to practice. You’ll have the best chance to create new ways of handling old issues when we work experientially in session with me there to guide you to more productive strategies.
The thing is, we don’t just talk about feelings, we feel them. When you are fighting, it can be difficult – if not impossible – to access the tools you learned in a moment of calm. In session, I make sure you are not only speaking from an intellectual place, but also from an emotional space, with new tools and to one another. This isn’t roleplay or parroting my words – it’s finding your own way through issues, differently and more effectively.
You’ll learn tools that you can actually apply at home, and learn them in a way that makes them within reach when you’re upset. In this way, you’ll be better equipped to make progress in the places that feel stuck, and you’ll experience what it feels like for a fight to have relational repair.
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I’m trained in Levels I and II and have met all the criteria for Level III. This approach helps me efficiently identify a couple’s strengths and struggles. It keeps us focused on the heart of the matter so we can find a deep resolution instead of surface level bandaids. For couples prone to “side quests” and who get stuck in the weeds, it can be a great way of identifying the through-line that underscores the deeper conflict.
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This approach hones in on the quality of attachment between you and your primary person. It helps couples better attune to each other and establishes a common emotional language. It aims to make sure that there’s spaces for each person’s needs to be met without self-abandonment.
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Building on Gottman’s model, this model adds lenses of neuroscience and mindfulness. It holds that dynamics are created by two people, not just one, and helps couples show up for each other without codependency or caretaker dynamics. It’s especially good at helping counseling be efficient and makes clear what each person can do to improve your connection.
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I was trained directly by the creator of this model, Stan Tatkin. This model is rooted in attachment theory and uses a two-person neurological model which focuses on how couples impact and feed each other’s states. For example, how does your partner’s dysregulation impact you? How does your state of being then further feed theirs? It looks to make these feedback loops healthier and more responsive.
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Cutting straight to the early life lessons we carry, this modality directly examines the roles of shame, grandiosity, and adaptive behaviors that no may longer serve us.
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AEDP is an excellent model for individual work that helps folks to connect their emotional and somatic experiences, from moment-to-moment. The overall goal is to empower you to be more connected to yourself, to be able to access more satisfaction and pleasure, and to feel more resilient with the hard parts of life.
While my roster of trained modalities is long, there’s a few that I frequently pull from.